I just thought I'd take a moment to remind everyone of http://www.calm.com, since we're coming into what for many is a stressful season. I've written about it here before, but from reading the posts in my writing club groups, I thought some of you might like the reminder. It will be okay. Breathe.
For many of you, the new academic year is underway or soon to be. While it is typical to feel a good deal of stress the first few weeks of the term, it's also exciting! New colleagues, new students, new courses to teach, and in some cases, new universities.
What are you excited about this term? And what are you planning to do to help manage your workload and your stress?
We all know the importance of saying "no." We've heard it time and time again, from our professors, mentors, and colleagues, and yet many of us still find it hard to do. Why does this happen? We're smart people, right? Why is it so hard to put into action what we know will work for us?
In part, it's because the irregularity of our schedules makes it difficult to know how much time we actually have available. But I think there's another reason academics find saying "no" so hard. We’re programmed to please. We were the "good kids," most of us, the students at the top of the class. We were taught that being offered a responsibility was a good thing. When people ask us to do something, they affirm our sense of self-worth, particularly when they say something like "we thought you'd be good for this."
Be careful when you hear that phrase! Make sure that you pause and evaluate the request, no matter how thrilling this praise…